Wit or Wisdom

          "Be rather wise than witty, for much wit hath commonly much froth, and it is hard to jest and not sometimes jeer too, which many times sinks deeper than was intended or expected, and what was designed for mirth ends in sadness." stated a C. Trenchild once.
     This could have very well been the defining statement of a debate I had with my self several months ago. Let me tell you. I moved into a new area and was taking classes and making friends with new people. Most of the other students had known each other for about a decade before I arrived. There was an ongoing joke to call one of the girls fat and tell fat jokes about her. Now you see, she wasn't fat at all and apparently that is where most of the humor came from. I asked around and found out they had been doing this for several years with no great objection from the girl, yet I could not discover why it made me so uneasy, troubled, annoyed, and even a little angry. I determined that It was not a direct sin for them to joke like that and I figured that it was not causing me to sin so I didn't know what was so odd. I finally determined what it was, I didn't want to joke like that, and I didn't want to develop the habit of ignoring people who joke and jest like that. I told them so and they were quite kind in granting my personal request to stop. You see I believe that "it is hard to jest and not sometimes jeer too"
     So what do you think? Do people need to just lighten up? Or should we all pay more attention to what we say about other people? Is it hard to jest and not jeer too?